From the moment they are born, children learn to make sense of the world and themselves by copying the behaviour of adults around them. Primarily this means, especially in the critical first five years of life, from their principal careers.
They learn to speak, the words to use and the accent to employ by mimicking the way grown-ups, especially their primary caregivers, talk and communicate. They also learn from them how they are supposed to handle conflict, stress and disappointment from the way older siblings and adults respond.
On this page we provide help and guidance based on our extensive experience of working with families.
Dan Jones has over twenty years’ experience working with families in their own homes and with teens and children with emotional and behavioural difficulties within residential children’s homes. He helped set up a therapeutic children’s home and has trained local authority family support staff and social workers in parenting, as well as holding parenting and family courses on topics from parenting skills to child/teen to parent violence/abuse. His YouTube videos have been viewed over 1.5 million times and his self-help audio tracks have been downloaded over 500,000 times.
Dr David Lewis has conducted extensive research into learning and child development and written numerous books on these topics including You Can Teach Your Child Intelligence; Mind Skills; How to be a Gifted Parent; Helping Your Child Through School; Helping Your Anxious Child; Your Child’s Drawings their Hidden Meaning and The Secret Language of Your Child.
How to you approach parenting? Find out by answering these questions:
Research suggests there are four main parenting styles. While a majority of parents predominantly follow just one of these styles on most occasions, there may be times when they will switch briefly to another. This could be due, for example, to have had an especially stressful or upsetting day. Click to learn more… [LINK to What Type of Parent Are You doc]
Discover the relationships within your family with these FREE questionnaires:
To learn more about relationships within your family download these two FREE assessments, one to be completed by Mum and Dad, the other by each child. When you have completed them compare your scores, as a family, to see how much agreement or disagreement exists. Use any differences in specific answers as a springboard for bringing out changes that will improve communications, enhance family cohesion and encourage co-operation.
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Parenting Styles & Techniques – Dan Jones
This two hour long video course, an introduction to parenting styles and techniques, is intended for use by parents, carers and parenting or family support workers. It explains the most effective way of managing challenging behaviour, setting boundaries and consequences, and communication skills. It describes how to use star/rewards charts and how to remain calm – one of the most important skills any parent can learn. By acquiring these practical skills parents whose children and teenagers have behaviour difficulties will be able to handle the challenger with greater confidence and success.
They will also prove of great benefit to professionals, working with families, who are either new to the role or haven’t had specific training on parenting styles and techniques.
Sleepy Bedtime Tales – Dan Jones
Do you want to be able to get your child to sleep at night?
Based on psychological principles and procedures, Sleepy Bedtime Tales offers a revolutionary way to ease your child comfortably into asleep. Written mainly for 4 to 7 year olds these bedtime stories can also be used with children as young as two. Each takes between ten and fifteen minutes to read.
The sleepy bedtime approach was developed over 15 years ago while Dan Jones was working in children’s homes with youngster who had emotional and behavioural problems. Since that time Dan has taught the approach to children’s home staff, family support workers and social workers, and to hundreds of parents, as well as applying the approach himself with children of all ages.
The stories in this ‘Sleepy Bedtime Tales’ book are:
- The Rabbit Who Came to Tea
- Timmy and the Secret Door
- The Princess and the Magical Kitten
- The Magical Unicorn
- The Spaceman and the Dinosaur
- The Swift and the Swallow
- The Caterpillar’s Dream
- The Boy Who Ran Off to the Circus
- Adventure of a Time Travelling Worm
- The Puppy Who Wanted to Play
- The Magical Journey Asleep
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Human Givens Approach to Working with Parents of Challenging Teens: An Evidence-Based Approach for Professionals in Social Work Practice – Dan Jones
Are you a professional, working within a social work setting, who would like to integrate a Human Givens Approach into your practice?
If so this book by Dan Jones, who has been working extensively with parents and families since 2007, could provide the answers you seek.
It is suitable for use within Family Link Work Services, Family Resource Services, Children’s Social Services, or a wide variety of other keyworker services where the professional’s role is to support parents of challenging teens.
The book is based not only on Dan’s professional experience working with challenging teens and troubled families, but also on his extensive research into the practical benefits of adopting a the approach in order to reduce youth criminal offending and antisocial behaviour.
His study, in which some 300 families were monitored over a one-year period and 90 families over 3 years, demonstrated the positive impact of this approach. Dan has also used Human Givens to help get parents back into work and young people back into school. The aim of this book is to add to your toolbox of strategies, skills and techniques that you already use with parents and families.
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